On the ever changing

There are many things in our lives that are ever changing.  In fact, it could be said that everything in our lives is ever changing.  One of my favorite sayings is that the only constant in life is change.  Stability is great and all, but without change the world stagnates and rots.  Which brings me to my next point.

I hate it when folks say "Don't ever change." Or "Always stay the same, that's how I love you."  The reason I hate these sayings is because they promote what, in my opinion, is a harmful and stagnant relationship pattern.  This is because people change.  No matter how old we are, no matter where we are in our life, we are constantly changing and growing.  So basically what you're saying is this "I'll love you until you grow up or change and then I'll dump your ass and go find someone that's just like how you were."

Now I'll admit that I'm a little bitter.  I've been dumped and cheated on and hurt.  I've been pushed to the side and ignored.  Short story is, I've had a checkered emotional past to say the least.  However, I still find faith in love.  I truly believe in the healing and emotionally uplifting power of love.  This is mostly because I've found the person I want to spend my life with, but it's also because despite all the terrible things being in love has caused me to do and has done to me it still makes me happy.

All that being said, I would never ask her to stay the same.  I wouldn't ask her to change either, but that's another point entirely.  The point is, people change.  It's human nature.  If you can't love some one not only for who they are now, but for who they might be, you probably shouldn't be together.  That's actually caused me some trouble in my past, but I still think it's the best policy.  People have so much potential, so fall for the person they are and stick around to see who they become.  Remember that you're changing too and it's a good idea to keep those lines of communication open.

Peace out guys,  I'll see you soon.